Is this self-assessment a diagnosis?

No. It's a screening tool based on common themes from Nice Guy recovery literature. It gives you a snapshot to reflect on, not a clinical diagnosis.

What should I do after I get my result?

Use the short tip we give you, or explore the full Breaking Free activity library. Many men also benefit from therapy or a No More Mr. Nice Guy support group for ongoing accountability.

Nice Guy Syndrome Self-Assessment

A self-assessment for Nice Guy Syndrome can help you see patterns that are hard to spot from the inside. Dr. Robert Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy describes a cluster of behaviors: seeking external approval, making covert contracts (I'll do X and you'll do Y, without saying it), avoiding conflict, putting others first to the point of resentment, and expressing anger or needs indirectly. This test is a structured way to rate how often those show up for you. Self-assessments aren't a diagnosis. They're a snapshot. Your answers might highlight areas you already knew were tender, or ones you hadn't named. Either way, the result gives you a band (few, some, or strong Nice Guy patterns) and a short interpretation. From there you can choose to ignore it, reflect on it, or take the next step: the full Breaking Free activity list, a support group, or an app that walks you through exercises for boundaries and honest communication. We built this self-assessment to be quick and private. No signup, no stored answers. You get your result in the moment and can leave or explore more resources. If you want a deeper breakdown and recommended exercises tailored to your result, the ConfidenceConnect app offers that alongside other evidence-based tools for dating confidence.

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I often agree with others or go along with plans even when I'd prefer something different.

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Is this self-assessment a diagnosis?: No. It's a screening tool based on common themes from Nice Guy recovery literature. It gives you a snapshot to reflect on, not a clinical diagnosis.
What should I do after I get my result?: Use the short tip we give you, or explore the full Breaking Free activity library. Many men also benefit from therapy or a No More Mr. Nice Guy support group for ongoing accountability.