What are Breaking Free activities?

They are exercises from the book No More Mr. Nice Guy that help you recognize and change approval-seeking, covert contracts, and boundary issues.

Do I need the book to use these?

No. Each activity we suggest includes a short instruction. The book has more context and full chapters. The app has the full library and tracking.

Breaking Free Activities for Nice Guys

The Breaking Free activities from Dr. Robert Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy help you replace old approval-seeking and people-pleasing patterns with honest, boundary-setting behavior. This picker lets you choose one or two focus areas (boundaries and saying no, covert contracts and expectations, self-care and putting yourself first, or approval-seeking and external validation) and we suggest five activities tailored to your choices. Each activity is a concrete exercise: observe when you back up from your line, say no once a day, name one covert contract, or do one thing for yourself. The full book has dozens more. This tool gives you a starting set you can do on your own or with a therapist or support group. Use the result as a weekly plan, then explore the full Breaking Free library in the ConfidenceConnect app.

Choose 1–2 focus areas

We'll suggest 5 Breaking Free activities tailored to your choices.

Boundaries & saying no
Covert contracts & expectations
Self-care & putting yourself first
Approval-seeking & external validation

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Frequently Asked Questions

What are Breaking Free activities?: They are exercises from the book No More Mr. Nice Guy that help you recognize and change approval-seeking, covert contracts, and boundary issues.
Do I need the book to use these?: No. Each activity we suggest includes a short instruction. The book has more context and full chapters. The app has the full library and tracking.