How do I practice without sounding harsh?

I statements are already softer than blame. You can add 'I appreciate you asking' or 'I'd love to another time' to keep tone warm while holding the boundary.

Boundary Scripts for Recovering Nice Guys

Recovering Nice Guys often struggle to say no or state a preference because they fear disapproval. Scripts give you words when your default is to agree. This generator offers scripts for work (saying no to extra requests), family (declining visits, asking for less advice), friends (saying no to plans), and dating (slowing down, stating preferences). Pick a situation, copy the script, and adapt it. Use the app for a full set and for assertiveness practice.

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We'll show you 2–3 "I statement" scripts you can use or adapt.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How do I practice without sounding harsh?: I statements are already softer than blame. You can add 'I appreciate you asking' or 'I'd love to another time' to keep tone warm while holding the boundary.